How To Release Anger
You’re beautiful when you’re angry.
As soon as you get peeved, your muscles tense up, your blood pressure spikes, and your breath becomes shallow.
Stress chemicals surge through your bloodstream and extra glucose floods the gates to prepare your body to move.
It can be difficult to lose weight when you’re stressed because chronic cortisol exposure makes you hold on to fat.
When you’re frustrated, moisture and oxygen is drawn away from the skin, ceasing the production of regenerating cells, causing wrinkles and loss of elasticity.
Now you have dull, dehydrated, acneic, pale skin, and maybe a few extra pounds.
Even with fancy skin products and healthy diets, stress can make you fat and ugly.
Science said it, not me.
TIP: RELEASE YOUR ANGER LITTLE BITS AT A TIME
When a dog is snarling and snapping at you from inside a cage, is she angry?
Maybe she’s afraid. She’s uncertain. She’s helpless.
She has no control over her environment. She feels as though she has been wronged. She’s vulnerable.
Anger is a secondary emotion that propels us to act.
It’s our body’s defense mechanism to protect us from a perceived threat.
But if we don’t use anger to “attack” an enemy, we use it to attack ourselves, and our health and wellbeing suffer.
The next time you feel angry, listen closely to the deeper emotion and do something.
Start today with little actions. (Please consult a therapist to help process anger.)
- Tell your friend that it hurts your feelings when she cancels plans last minute.
- Explain to your mom that it would mean a lot to you if she didn’t criticize your career choices.
- Tell your date or colleague that you don’t like __________ .
- Negotiate a timeline/financial agreement with your client/boss that is fair to you.
- Write your local representative.
- Ask the airline passenger behind you to stop kicking your seat.
- Say, “Don’t talk to me like that.”
There may be pushback. For peacekeepers and conflict-avoiders this can feel scary.
But studies show that us cheek-turners are also the most likely to suffer from depression, chronic pain, skin disorders, and cancer, because we worry more about what others are feeling than our own self-respect.
It’s time to release a little steam from the pressure cooker, one tiny puff at a time.
You’re beautiful when you express your emotions . . . inside and out.
– Jerene Dildine